As a parent, you do so much to care for your family.
When food allergies are involved, it can raise new questions for you and your family. This guide is here to help you understand food allergies and feel confident in keeping your family safe and comfortable around food.
It’s really important to know the difference between food allergies, intolerances, and sensitivities.
Lots of people get them mixed up! These are all different ways your body can react to food.
Some reactions to food might just make you feel a little uncomfortable, while others can be very serious and even dangerous.
Food Allergy:
This is a specific and often serious immune response where your body’s protection system, the immune system, reacts to a certain food as if it were harmful. This reaction can happen very quickly after someone eats even a tiny bit of the food and can cause an immediate reaction. Food allergies can be severe and sometimes life-threatening. An example is a peanut allergy.
Food Intolerance:
Unlike an allergy, this happens when your body has trouble breaking down a type of food, often due to a lack of enzymes. Symptoms are usually digestive, like gas or tummy pain. It’s generally not life-threatening. An example is lactose intolerance.
Food Sensitivity:
Also different from an allergy, this involves your body’s immune system’s delayed reaction, but is not a true allergy. Symptoms can be wider, including digestion, headaches, tiredness, or skin rashes, and are often related to the amount of food eaten. It’s generally not life-threatening. An example would be caffeine. While many enjoy coffee or tea, some people are highly sensitive to caffeine, experiencing anxiety, rapid heart rate, or restlessness even with small amounts.
For the rest of this guide, when we talk about “food allergies,” we’ll focus mostly on food allergies, which are the most serious type of reaction.
Knowing what to look for and what foods most often cause allergic reactions can help you keep your family safe. An allergic reaction can affect different parts of the body, so it’s important to know what signs to watch for.
You might see hives (red, itchy bumps), swelling (of the face, lips, or eyes), or patches of eczema (dry, itchy skin).
Your child might have vomiting, diarrhea, or stomach pain.
For more information about common allergens, you can visit:
When someone in your family has a food allergy, you’ll need to find other foods to replace the ones they can’t eat. WIC can help you learn about these options.
If your baby has allergies, knowing what to feed them can feel overwhelming. For detailed guidance on feeding infants with allergies, please refer to the Infant Feeding Guide section on allergies.
Here are some food swaps and tips for managing common allergies day-to-day:
Milk substitutes:
For non-dairy milk options, you can choose from soy milk, almond milk, oat milk, coconut milk, rice milk, hemp milk, or flax milk. When choosing non-dairy milk, look for one with calcium (about 300 milligrams) and vitamin D (about 115-117 I.U.) amounts similar to cow’s milk.
Egg replacements:
It’s easy to replace eggs when cooking! Each of these ideas can work in place of one egg in a recipe:
Peanut alternatives:
Try sunflower seed butter, almond butter, cashew butter, macadamia nut butter, walnut butter, or tahini.
Gluten-free grains:
If wheat or gluten is an issue, consider rice, quinoa, amaranth, buckwheat, sorghum, millet, or teff. Oatmeal is naturally gluten-free, but it can pick up gluten during processing. Always look for “gluten-free” on the label to be sure.
Check food labels:
Learning to read food labels carefully is key to avoiding allergens.
Know what foods to look for:
Food ingredients can sometimes have many different names. There are websites where you can search by your specific allergy to find other names for those ingredients.
Preparing allergen-free meals:
It is very important to learn how to cook safely to avoid allergens in your kitchen.
Ready to be a kitchen safety superhero? One of your most important superpowers is stopping cross-contamination. This happens when even a tiny bit of an allergy-causing food gets into a food meant to be free of that allergen, and even a tiny bit can cause a reaction.
Here are some ways to use your powers to prevent this in your kitchen:
For more tips on avoiding cross-contact, visit:
feeding challenges
Young children with food allergies often face unique feeding challenges. These difficulties come from various factors, including fear of allergic reactions, limited food choices, and the stress of managing limited food choices.
Division of Responsibility in Feeding
You can help your child have a good relationship with food while ensuring their safety and nutritional well-being by creating a positive and supportive feeding environment. Build confidence and trust with your child by applying the Division of Responsibility in Feeding by Ellyn Satter.
Job = What, When, Where
Job = If They Eat and How Much
It is important to also:
If parents do their job with feeding, kids will do their job with eating
~Ellyn Satter
To help your child eat well, follow these “do’s” and “don’ts”
Do plan ahead and set a routine eating schedule for the family to gather and share meals together. Your child needs three meals and three snacks a day, carefully spaced so they come to the table hungry but not too hungry.
Do decide on the place to eat. A table is simply a space where you all sit together. It can be at home, outside, or at a restaurant. Make sure that whatever space you decide on, there are no distractions like phones, tablets, TV, or pets.
Do enjoy each other’s company and allow each person to eat until they decide they are pleasantly full.
Do allow your child to pick and choose from the foods offered on the table. Your child may not choose everything on the table, and that’s okay! If you do not draw attention to your child’s eating, they will feel comfortable exploring new foods in their own way and time.
Do allow your child to say when they are full. Your child will eat until they feel satisfied if you let them. Sometimes, that may mean they eat seconds and thirds. Sometimes, that means a few bites or nothing at all.
Teaching New Tastes Safely
Your child may take longer to warm up to new foods than a child without food allergies. Repeated exposure to new foods from your child’s “safe food” list is key! Start early and be patient.
Critical ages for learning new tastes, textures, and chewing are 7-18 months old.
You may need to offer a new food over 10 times before your child decides they will eat it. Don’t pressure!
Be a good role model. Your child is ready to learn and can accept a wide range of food if you help them by sitting down and sharing the same foods.
Be okay with your child’s food preferences, like you are with your own. Food preferences are typically set by the time your child is 6 years old.
As your child reaches their second birthday, they should have developed the skills they need to eat well; however, managing food allergies can add extra challenges, making it a bit tougher for your little one to develop those important eating skills.
Managing food allergies involves understanding the diagnosis and having a clear plan.
An allergy action plan is a written guide from your doctor that will explain what to do if an allergic reaction happens. It includes symptoms to watch for and what medications to give. Share this plan with anyone caring for your child, like family members, childcare providers, and school staff.
Your doctor may refer you to specialists like an allergist or a registered dietitian.
These experts can help you understand your child’s allergy, manage their diet, and make sure they get the nutrition they need.
If your child with allergies struggles with accepting new foods, and as a parent, you struggle to get beyond the fear of an allergic reaction, your provider may be able to refer you to a:
Talk to your child about their food allergies. It is important to teach your child about their allergies in a way they can understand. Teach them not to share food with others or accept food from people unless you say it is safe.
Use these tips to handle daily life with food allergies
Always read food labels closely, every time you buy a product. Companies can change ingredients without telling you. Look for clear allergen statements.
Call restaurants ahead to confirm they can safely prepare allergy-friendly food.
Inform staff (server, manager, or chef) about allergies and specific foods to avoid upon arrival. It may help to carry allergy chef cards to let the kitchen staff know about your family’s allergies.
Opt for simple dishes to avoid hidden ingredients, like plain grilled chicken over complex sauces.
Avoid buffets and salad bars as they can be risky due to cross-contamination, where serving spoons or food might accidentally touch other items.
Create a relaxed mealtime where everyone shares the same foods, which helps your child with allergies feel included and reduces stress. Trust your child to decide how much to eat from the foods you offer. Serve allergy-safe foods that are filling so everyone gets enough. Your goal is for family meals to be a positive time, focusing on connection rather than fear.
Learning how to manage food allergies is a journey, and you are doing a great job by learning how to keep your family safe and fed well.
If your child has ongoing feeding problems, it’s important to get additional help as soon as possible. Always contact your healthcare provider for allergy specialist referrals or medical concerns. Staying informed and seeking support helps your family live well with food allergies.
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